"Yes, and" Commitment

Be faithful. And flexible.

As I describe in my new book, a "keep your options open" mentality can make sense when you're young. We often need to sample a variety of options to discover our gifts and passions.

But great advice for a 17-year-old could be disastrous advice for a 37-year-old (let alone a 77-year-old).

Keeping our options open for so long that we never commit to anyone or anything does not lead to a meaningful life. 

At the same time, locking ourselves in a certain path by 30 without any room for growth and flexibility would also be unsatisfying.

The world around us is changing. We, too, need to change. 

John Henry Newman said, "In a higher world it is otherwise, but here below to live is to change, and to be perfect is to have changed often."

How, then, do we strike the appropriate balance between the need for stability and the need for change? 

I propose we take an insight from improv comedy and make "yes, and" commitments:

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