"Get over it!"
Telling this to another person rarely helps. It's more likely to produce resentment than positive change.
But "get over it" may be exactly what we need to say to ourselves.
Of course, we need to mourn. We should be honest about what we're feeling. But our current feelings are not the entirety of what has been or could be. Channeling some of that feeling into doing something productive might be exactly what we need to do to get over it.
I recently had a day when I was so focused on minor disappointments that I failed to notice all that I had received.
Get over it, Michael. And laugh at your absurdity for having to learn this yet again.
Laughter is particularly helpful. Eric Barker writes:
Humor is the most powerful disappointment sponge1 we have. A power rises from behind the words and disinfects the difficulties of existence. With time all tragedies fade and negative emotions soften but humor helps speed the fermentation process, turning old pain into funny memories. The lowlights become highlights.
So, you're frustrated? Well, now you have a meaningful project to commit yourself to. Things are not ideal? So now we have the chance to make things better.
I love the phrase "disappointment sponge." Eric Barker has a way with words.